Let us live for ourselves

Let us live for ourselves

One of the universal realities is that the first social institution for a child is a family. It is a place where he gets introduced to Knowledge, faith, culture and others. But with the modernization, which has raised the burden on Kids, every parent now demands a Doctor and Engineer in their kids, while ignoring the desires of their child.

Most of the parents in the sub-continent are stuck with the mind set of forcing their wards to become doctors, engineers and pilots. Is not it equally important to ask a child what he wants to becomes. In our society when new baby is born parents straight away decide their future.

The criteria of judging the so called fate is simple for any parent for that matter. If a baby girl is born, she has to become a doctor. If it is boy then engineer. The height is even before the child gets introduced to the alphabets of literature; the fate of a child is already decided.

This is one of the reasons due to which the kids of this generation have become more vulnerable. The desire which one lives with to achieve are crippled in the childhood. Ultimately it ends up with frustration and helplessness. Psychological experts claim that one of the reasons for suicide among the present generation is that they find their dreams getting scattered and ultimately commit suicide. 

We start mugging up things,and from there on new journey starts - called “the journey of studies” -from word A we reach to Z and from 1 to 100 and so on more words come and numbers we learn but the direction in which we are going is what our parents had already decided.

Nobody asks us what we want to become.I often wonder why our parents dictate us our future. Perhaps, it happens because of the society around us. Parents often tell us that “see your friend he tops the list” but why do we compare ourselves with others?It is simple because of the society around us.Someone has rightly said the word “log kya kahenge” (What will people say) has killed more dreams than anything else.Break the rules, live for yourself not for others.Why do we care about society?

Have we arrived in this world to satisfy others? Or are we here to live our dreams?From very beginning our mind is set that we want to become doctor, engineer, pilot et cetera.

But when we start achieving the mile stones that our parents had set for us we become happy for time being.Our parents become happy in society after noun is being followed by adjectives like doctor, engineer et cetera,but in inner world what we want to become that remains confined to us and the only thing that describe our desire remains entangled to Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. 

When child is born we use to tell them “you will become doctor. But, when you see cricket match on television you will start telling yourself this is what you wanted to become. But this is too late we have missed the bus.Time and tide waits for none. 

There are few people in this world who know what actually they want to become rather than others and when we could not achieve that we say that is not good for us or this was in my fate but nobody says I never made an attempt for it.

The culture of enforcing the profession is killing and leaving our generation with deep psychological trauma. It is high time for parents to change their policy towards their children and try to accept the ideas of their children.